Happy birthday Cathy! Have I told you recently how wonderful you are? In full disclosure, this post is inspired by Scary Mommy’s Mother-in-law Prenup, but you deserve to hear it because you did a great job raising Zac. Also, you have fabulous hair that it appears Hannah is lucky to have inherited. Sadly, Audrey is going balder by the minute, but I could easily acknowledge that her vibrant smile complements yours and Zac’s.
As for the rule of making your son call you, I can’t take much credit for that and I wouldn’t want to since he tends to call you at 5 AM. He really is doing an amazing job staying in touch with you guys and we all enjoy the Skype chats that bring the family together on Sunday dinners. It’s no doubt that the TLC and acceptance you showed him throughout his rogue years are now paying off. He looks at you as a compassionate role model. But not for himself, for me.
He wants me to be like you because he loves you and he wants me to know the joy that you have as he honors that aspect of your terrific family. You may not live close by, but you live daily in his heart and his actions. Just the other night, I laid with Hannah for two hours coaxing her to sleep. She wasn’t fighting it, she just took her time to cuddle with her Mama. When I came downstairs, flustered that I wouldn’t be able to get much done that evening, he calmed me immediately by saying, “You’re a great Mom. My Mom used to do that for us.”
One of my favorite things that you did for your family was to chronicle them with thousands of photos. The videos and galleries and albums that Zac shares with me are a window to his amazing childhood. I love that you created traditions through photography, like the yearly picture of Zac with his birthday poster.
There’s a lot on this Mom path that I’m figuring out on my own and it sometimes leaves me guessing what impact it will have on the girls when they grow up. I don’t worry about that any more. I know that I don’t have to do everything right, and more importantly, the girls don’t either. I can encourage them, love them, and accept the good with the bad every day of their lives just like you did with your boys. Thank you for putting Zac on loan to me so that we can create these adorable grandbabies. I hope that the next one (when that happens) has your eyes.